{"id":14817,"date":"2019-01-19T21:18:46","date_gmt":"2019-01-19T21:18:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/healthyjaime.com\/?p=14817"},"modified":"2019-01-19T21:23:14","modified_gmt":"2019-01-19T21:23:14","slug":"the-secret-weapon-of-desire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healthyjaime.com\/the-secret-weapon-of-desire\/","title":{"rendered":"The Secret Weapon of Desire"},"content":{"rendered":"<h5><em>“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” ~Napoleon Hill<\/em><\/h5>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>My friends, it\u2019s mid-January. Many of us have set goals for 2019, and we\u2019re either experiencing some level of success or some level of discouragement so far. For those who are feeling discouraged, I want you to pull out the secret weapon of desire.<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>We tend to move towards what makes us feel good, and away from what doe<a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"14818\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/healthyjaime.com\/the-secret-weapon-of-desire\/starting-hike\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?fit=5184%2C3240&ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"5184,3240\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"0"}\" data-image-title=\"starting hike\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?fit=300%2C188&ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?fit=1024%2C640&ssl=1\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-14818\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike-300x188.jpg?resize=300%2C188\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"188\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?resize=300%2C188&ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?resize=768%2C480&ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?resize=1024%2C640&ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?resize=740%2C462&ssl=1 740w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?resize=370%2C231&ssl=1 370w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?w=2280&ssl=1 2280w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/healthyjaime.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/starting-hike.jpg?w=3420&ssl=1 3420w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>sn\u2019t. We resist and procrastinate, make excuses, and avoid things we don\u2019t really like or want to deal with. Knowing this, have you asked yourself how your goals make you feel? For instance, think about the difference between these two statements: \u2018I have to lose weight because I hate the way I look,\u2019 vs. \u2018I want to feel so good in my body that I can climb a mountain by the end of the summer.\u2019 The first is laden with shame and a feeling of heaviness. The second is exciting, driven by an energetic rush that\u2019s associated with positive desire.<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>Have you ever noticed how much energy it takes out of you when you feel bad about yourself and ashamed? How unmotivated you feel? How difficult it is to take action? Can you frame your desires positively instead of in a way that elicits negative emotions? Make your goals feel light instead of heavy. \u201cI want to have the energy and stamina to run around and play with my beautiful grandkids for years.\u201d \u201cI want to have the mental clarity and focus to write my novel\/play\/screenplay with velocity this year.\u201d \u201cI want to feel so confident about what I\u2019m eating, that I have more time and energy to give to what\u2019s important to me (relationships\/projects\/travel\/kids, etc.).\u201d Do a little makeover on your goals!<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>Reframing your goals in this way should give you great start. But there\u2019s even more good news about positive desire. When you feel good, your brain releases the chemical dopamine, which helps motivation and concentration\u2026 perfect for helping you achieve your goals! When created by your body naturally (i.e. not with the help of recreational drugs), dopamine can be like you own internal cheerleader. So, start spending time with people who make you feel GOOD about yourself, not bad. Connect more <em>in-person<\/em>, and use social media less. Get and give HUGS! Spend time in nature. Listen to music you love. Get a massage. Start adding more pleasure and joy to your life like they are the fuel for your desires\u2026 because they are!<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>Most importantly, say nice things to yourself instead of beating yourself up. Get rid of the \u2018no pain, no gain\u2019 mentality, and move towards what gives you pleasure. If dieting and restriction makes you feel bad, then you’re working against the flow of a strong river rapids. Go <em>with\u00a0<\/em>the flow of the river instead. What are the healthy foods you actually like? What is the type of exercise you do enjoy, and at what time of day? And with whom (or do you want\/need alone-time)? What if your entire focus was about pleasure, or making things enjoyable? Marie Kondo has made waves with her best-selling book, \u2018The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up,\u2019 and now her new Netflix show, \u2018Tidying Up with Marie Kondo,\u2019 in which she uses her principle, <em>keep only things that spark joy<\/em>. We could all use a little bit of that wisdom to apply to our lives.<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to make a change, there\u2019s some amount of inertia you\u2019re working against that you have to overcome. If you move in the direction of desire, pleasure and joy, you\u2019ll have an energetic rush pushing you forward, creating momentum, like a nice supportive wind in your sails. So go after it, 2019! Happy sailing!<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” ~Napoleon Hill My friends, it\u2019s mid-January. 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